any death is sad, but there are those that are just especially awful. i found out probably the second worse death yesterday.
the first happened to a friend of mine. her uncle hadn't been heard from in a few days and her mother went over to check on him. her mother found him dead --which is bad enough-- but the shock from it caused her mother to have a heart attack, i think. can you imagine? losing your uncle and your mother at the same time. ugh. that's just the worst thing i've ever heard.
the second worst happened to an old childhood friend of mine. she and i didn't stay in touch at all, so this isn't personally sad for me, it's sad for her mom. Yvonne Matthews didn't have any kids and had adopted Rachel and rasied her as her own. i don't remember how all of that happened, i know Yvonne wasn't married and it was just the two of them. we all went to the same church growing up and Yvonne works at the same university as my dad. anyway, dad told me last night that Rachel and her 3 yr old daughter had died in a car accident (the car hit them as they were crossing the street) somewhere in NC.
i feel so horrible for Yvonne. she lost her only child and grandchild at the same time. she went from having a whole family to being all alone...again. ugh. Rachel was only 24. that's just aweful. i think parents burying child is that worse thing. there's something unnatural about it. as a child, you sort of know that someday you'll have to bury your parents. sometimes the timing is unfair and a kid will lose their parent while they are really young, but most of the time the cycle runs its natrual course. i don't have any kids, but i can't imagine what special sort of hell it must be to raise and nurture a person and to have them taken away from you. all of that lost potential.
i've been thinking about it most of the day. it's amazing to me how insanely random life is. you have people who squander opportunities and personal relationships in equal measure, doesn't seem to realize what they have, and certainly doesn't respect any of it. then you have people would give anything to have half of what they have. it is what it is and each person lives their own life, but it's just hard to understand how unfair life is.
maybe all of that is what makes me try so hard in my personal relationships. i never want to take anyone for granted, because...and i hate to take it back to church, but...we aren't promised tomorrow, and, at the end of the day, i may not have a college degree yet and my job may suck, but i know i'm loved and everyone i love knows it.
i guess, to me, that's what it's all about.
the first happened to a friend of mine. her uncle hadn't been heard from in a few days and her mother went over to check on him. her mother found him dead --which is bad enough-- but the shock from it caused her mother to have a heart attack, i think. can you imagine? losing your uncle and your mother at the same time. ugh. that's just the worst thing i've ever heard.
the second worst happened to an old childhood friend of mine. she and i didn't stay in touch at all, so this isn't personally sad for me, it's sad for her mom. Yvonne Matthews didn't have any kids and had adopted Rachel and rasied her as her own. i don't remember how all of that happened, i know Yvonne wasn't married and it was just the two of them. we all went to the same church growing up and Yvonne works at the same university as my dad. anyway, dad told me last night that Rachel and her 3 yr old daughter had died in a car accident (the car hit them as they were crossing the street) somewhere in NC.
i feel so horrible for Yvonne. she lost her only child and grandchild at the same time. she went from having a whole family to being all alone...again. ugh. Rachel was only 24. that's just aweful. i think parents burying child is that worse thing. there's something unnatural about it. as a child, you sort of know that someday you'll have to bury your parents. sometimes the timing is unfair and a kid will lose their parent while they are really young, but most of the time the cycle runs its natrual course. i don't have any kids, but i can't imagine what special sort of hell it must be to raise and nurture a person and to have them taken away from you. all of that lost potential.
i've been thinking about it most of the day. it's amazing to me how insanely random life is. you have people who squander opportunities and personal relationships in equal measure, doesn't seem to realize what they have, and certainly doesn't respect any of it. then you have people would give anything to have half of what they have. it is what it is and each person lives their own life, but it's just hard to understand how unfair life is.
maybe all of that is what makes me try so hard in my personal relationships. i never want to take anyone for granted, because...and i hate to take it back to church, but...we aren't promised tomorrow, and, at the end of the day, i may not have a college degree yet and my job may suck, but i know i'm loved and everyone i love knows it.
i guess, to me, that's what it's all about.
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